Low Libido?

I recently did a post on Instagram about a more gentle approach to low libido and the response was so beautiful.


I am hearing from so many people that they are so worn out, resentful, exhausted, and overwhelmed that they don’t have any space for turn on. Worse then that, often there isn’t even energy to care about the fact that it is gone.


And for a lot of us jumping straight from that exhausted to shouting p*$$y, doing self massage everyday and mirror gazing in a room full of people is way too big a jump (as amazing as those practices are).


I deeply believe that everyone deserves to feel excited, turned on, and delicious; and to live without pain and numbness. We all need space to meet ourselves exactly where we are now and have steps and practices that feel right to us.


So here are some much more gentle approaches to connecting to sexual vitality:

• Building trust with your own body: This is a gentle practice of listening to the body to build trust. As much as possible, this is eating when we feel hungry, going to the washroom when we need, resting when we are tired, etc. It isn’t about being perfect, it is about treating our body with love and compassion so that we have a foundation of trust with ourselves.
• Singing: I know it sounds simple and unconnected to sexual health, but the throat is actually a reflective area (I highly recommend looking up Luisa Alexandre’s beautiful art – and it does apply for all physical and gender identities) We not only get the joy of singing and the beautiful nourishment of hearing our own voice, it can also be very healing for libido
• Explore pleasure: You can completely remove this from sexual pleasure if needed and just explore what you enjoy. If you get stuck think of the senses: What would smell amazing? What fabrics would feel good on your skin? What would you most like to see? Do you want quiet or a particular song?

A really wonderful mentor replied to the post with an essential aspect of this: releasing the need for there to be a specific outcome. All three of these practices are beautiful and healing in their own right and really benefit from being done without any attachment to an outcome.


If any of this resonates for you or you have any thoughts about these ideas, I would love to hear from you. I am really wanting to offer more supports in this area and would love to hear what you find lacking and wish existed.